(More information about the Edwardian Dinner Party -- continued)
Louis made himself the source of honors and privileges, of grants and life incomes, of status. He set the standards of taste and made sure that every member of the aristocracy felt obliged to follow them. He also made following the standards so expensive that it was worth a year’s income to afford to live at court. Even so, the aristocracy became unwilling to live anywhere else, least of all on their own remote unsophisticated estates without the diversions of court life.
Over time, court protocol and customs became very rigid and focussed almost exclusively on the king’s wishes and daily routine. For example, when Louis XIV ate his noon meal, he ate alone with his courtiers standing in front of him watching. The court was expected to attend the king when he arose in the morning, and it was a privilege to assist the royal majesties in dressing. New ideas and change were not welcome.
This exchange of ideas among leaders in different disciplines, on a more modest scale, was another inspiration for the Edwardian dinners that Tony and I decided to give. There are certain challenges in doing this (such as lack of aristocratic pedigree and income!), and we have learned a lot along the way.
The Guests
It takes patience and exploration to put together a mix of guests from academe, the arts, business, journalism, government and politics, religion, and the wise men and women of the realm---especially since it is very important that guests feel very comfortable having a discussion with dinner partners they may well have just met. Some are more comfortable than others.
It is also somewhat of a challenge to get a good cross-section. Four guests from one profession is too many, since cross-pollenization and sharing of new views and ideas are two of the goals. Sometimes we know only one member of a couple, which is a bit chancey. We worry a fair amount about hurting the feelings of someone who hasn’t been invited yet. One just has to walk the path, doing one’s best.
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